tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post6745056388847290805..comments2024-03-10T15:13:47.148-07:00Comments on Research-China.Org: Searching For Birthparents -- How Can It Be DoneResearch-China.Orghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-63176055113788069322018-02-06T17:26:02.288-08:002018-02-06T17:26:02.288-08:00Spreading: No worries about repercussions. Not sur...Spreading: No worries about repercussions. Not sure the government would be able to monitor FB, since FB is blocked inside China, so a VPN would need to be used. Good luck!!!Research-China.Orghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-29073648866659873002018-02-06T15:58:11.988-08:002018-02-06T15:58:11.988-08:00I think that I found my Biological family on faceb...I think that I found my Biological family on facebook. But the only hold back is the fact that I would be contacting them via online. What kind of repercussions could they face legal wise if I reached out. Could the Chinese government arrest them for abandoning a child in 1998? Can the Chinese government read and see all of the messages that are sent? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-90388042245900272032018-01-17T20:16:17.487-08:002018-01-17T20:16:17.487-08:00Is there a way to find someone in China to post th...Is there a way to find someone in China to post the posters and serve as a translator? I would like to screen the replies by email before travelling.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12230622429554867095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-10826195114743406442016-11-19T10:13:19.787-08:002016-11-19T10:13:19.787-08:00I did a search for our son who started asking ques...I did a search for our son who started asking questions at the age of 8. He also deals with a lot of trauma and his heart is broken over the idea that he was abandoned. I had hopes that finding his birth family would help his broken heart but the BP did not reciprocate any contact. I believe that searching for as much info as possible when you can is important because when the adoptee's are older and start asking questions for themselves, it will help them to know that you have done all that you could to gain some information, even if it was info that led to disappointment, they will know and be reassured that you did all that you could to help them. As adoptive parents, we feel that it is imperative to maintain as much trust as possible with our adopted children. To assume that it is an ego thing, as someone suggested, for the adoptive parent is a strange idea to me. I did this search completely out of the need for my heartbroken son, and I would have personally preferred to leave well enough alone if I could. But I felt it was my obligation to help my child.<br />Hisgurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00849638899393591733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1455586718404937632016-03-01T15:31:49.529-08:002016-03-01T15:31:49.529-08:00I'm an adoptee. The people who adopted from Ch...I'm an adoptee. The people who adopted from China doesn't have any interest in helping me. So I've been doing so research on my own. I'm confused at this point. It's been 15 + years since I got adopted. Is there a chance I could find out if I have family that are still alive in China ? I want closure and it's been haunting me for too long. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-42544035376537349872015-06-02T22:45:10.767-07:002015-06-02T22:45:10.767-07:00In regards to Anonymous, 10/06/14 2:41PM i th...In regards to Anonymous, 10/06/14 2:41PM i think each family's situation is unique and parents should decide what's best for their child based on their child's individual situation. I don't think there's any "one" right way or time.Interested adoptive parenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00050960162482018732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-14783018089770393322014-10-06T14:41:53.262-07:002014-10-06T14:41:53.262-07:00I think you are extraordinarily misguided to belie...I think you are extraordinarily misguided to believe that it's a parents' right to seek this information and then hold it in secret from their child. You are not a social worker and what you are suggesting flies in the face of every accepted way of dealing with the issue of birth parents.<br /><br />You make money by assisting with birth parent searches so you are of course going to encourage people to "do it now!" I think your advice is self-serving and extremely dangerous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-69405157954639756122014-07-21T17:57:16.879-07:002014-07-21T17:57:16.879-07:00I am looking for my birth parents but I don't ...I am looking for my birth parents but I don't know where to start. I don't want to be ungrateful to my adopted parents but I can't help feeling that knowing my birth parents and what their reasons were for giving me away would almost give me a sense of who I am<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-82798293023142483502014-01-18T08:06:30.664-08:002014-01-18T08:06:30.664-08:00Is there any way to locate my birthparents if I do...Is there any way to locate my birthparents if I don't have any definite information such as my name or birthday? My parents have told me that I was found wandering by a police station when I was two but it's not definite. My parents have shown me some papers but all of them just tell me information that the orphanage gave to me... I'm afraid to ask my parents to help me locate them because my adoption is a touchy subject for them. Is there anything I can do? I feel like I'm missing a big part of who I am...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08579420795354121198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1659164748492146572013-08-23T17:01:53.490-07:002013-08-23T17:01:53.490-07:00I was adopted In Nanchang China Was said to be fou...I was adopted In Nanchang China Was said to be found in a box in the park with my birthday only tagged onto my shirt no other information so the orphanege Gave me the name Zheng Lu Whan. I have a scar on my back which has been there with me before orphanege tooAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-35915685643516945982013-06-01T23:42:13.370-07:002013-06-01T23:42:13.370-07:00This is intresting information for my children. If...This is intresting information for my children. If my children like us as parents to search for their birthparents, we will assist them in doing so when they are 18 years old in doing so. I found it very mindblowing about the scars on the children. My son has a specific scar in his face that we noticed at once.<br />If a search of BP would be done in earlier age, a would tell the child about it, or i would not search. I believe that a lack of trust, is the most devestating thing for a human being. Greetings. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-22737974379073657522013-05-15T13:38:32.170-07:002013-05-15T13:38:32.170-07:00I'm discovering through the internet that ther...I'm discovering through the internet that there are soooo many ways to search for your birthparents. I enjoyed this post very much. Thank you for sharing.Becky searching for her birth motherhttp://www.tanefflaw.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-15021157297641396662013-04-17T10:12:55.762-07:002013-04-17T10:12:55.762-07:00Through my research, I have found that searching f...Through my research, I have found that searching for your birth mother can turn out to be difficult or easy. The story is never the same. Thank you for sharing your expertise on this subject.Rachel researching finding your birth motherhttp://www.tanefflaw.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-29080302443923087702012-02-02T19:36:24.145-08:002012-02-02T19:36:24.145-08:00We have searched for 31, and located 24.
BrianWe have searched for 31, and located 24. <br /><br />BrianResearch-China.Orghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-67845822311227734032012-02-02T19:28:48.933-08:002012-02-02T19:28:48.933-08:00so how many birth families have been found with yo...so how many birth families have been found with your help?debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08864857670075634979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-26930248072751098472010-10-08T23:33:20.388-07:002010-10-08T23:33:20.388-07:00Dear 15:
Thanks for posting your thoughts. I agr...Dear 15:<br /><br />Thanks for posting your thoughts. I agree with everything you said, and wish you luck in your explorations. <br /><br />All the best!!!<br /><br />BrianResearch-China.Orghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-65628250037986001452010-10-08T19:50:20.178-07:002010-10-08T19:50:20.178-07:00Brian-
you seem to misunderstand. I am sure y...Brian- <br /> you seem to misunderstand. I am sure you have researched you share on adopted children, but children should know they were adopted from the time they were born, keeping information is the same as lying in the way i see it. if my parents hadn't told me until i asked i would be ticked off with them for not telling me just because i never asked. i'm 15 and 3months now, meaning i have known for 14year and 10months. i rather know the truth. love is made of two equally powerful emotions joy and sorrow. you can't have one without the other. the truth hurts, but it doesn't hurt as much as a lie. trust me i know. I know back in the old days ( in my opinion that was before adoption was so common) I can understand, sorta why parents wouldn't tell their kids, but now a days it should be like the ABC's and 123's you have the obligation to teach them. my parents never said "today we are going to talk about your adoption" instead they had brought me up with it (and are still bringing me up with it) and on my birthday i think about my birth mother. My mom and I talk about what she might be thinking. It's never a painful conversation. It's just part of who i am. no need to be sad or happy or angry. it's just part of life, like you were born with eyes, nose, and a mouth. <br />-15 still wonderin, but not obsessed with it :)<br />ps. i am the same girl who wrote about 10mins ago, haha, still had a little more to add :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-20127221457632191622010-10-08T19:35:57.253-07:002010-10-08T19:35:57.253-07:00Hello.
I am 15 and was adopted from China at t...Hello. <br /> I am 15 and was adopted from China at the age of 5months. I grew up knowing I was adopted because my parents and I look very different. I am glad my parents told me at a very young age. I've ALWAYS known. I've always wanted to meet my birth parents I believe it was at the age of 5 when I brought up that I wished to meet them. My parents promised they would take me back one day. The information that came with me was extremely limited. My younger brother was also adopted, but from Korea who is more open than China. I feel lucky to have always known that I was adopted, if I was not told until later I feel I would be upset with my parents for keeping something so important, why would you not tell your child a life altering event?! It does not make sense. Even if I never find them, I am happy with the family I am with, and they are willing to take me back this April to visit China and explore with me. We will go to Korea in a few years as well. I hope to adopt a child when I am older. It is harder I believe for people who are not adopted to understand what a difference it makes. Certain things make me tick, and I have dreams about what I think I saw when I was an infant, as none of these can be proven I feel that I took in more information then people give infants credit for. For a message and help to all who are thinking about adopting or who have questions to ask an adoptee who is older than a child, but not quite an adult, your choice to tell your child that they are adopted is up to you, but how I've always seen it is not telling them is no different then lying to them. I rather know the truth from the start, then to find out later that you knew more information then what you had told me. I love my family now and am grateful that my birth parents had placed me for adoption, yet sad that they left no way for me to find them in the future. <br />Good luck<br />-a fellow adoptee from China ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-72821003514223826122010-08-29T07:53:17.578-07:002010-08-29T07:53:17.578-07:00I think it's very amazing how so many parents ...I think it's very amazing how so many parents want to find information for their children. I was adopted from china and I don't think my parents ever tired to find information about my birth parents, now I feel as if I'm suck, alone as a young teenager trying to find out about my history. I think that every parent should do as much as they possibly can to find out their children's herritage before their child even asks about it.Changnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-64234840497619559742010-08-29T07:51:26.134-07:002010-08-29T07:51:26.134-07:00I think it's very amazing how so many parents ...I think it's very amazing how so many parents want to find information for their children. I was adopted from china and I don't think my parents ever tired to find information about my birth parents, now I feel as if I'm suck, alone as a young teenager trying to find out about my history. I think that every parent should do as much as they possibly can to find out their children's herritage before their child even asks about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-78121441097208053762008-10-29T17:14:00.000-07:002008-10-29T17:14:00.000-07:00Anyone interested can contact me for some advice o...Anyone interested can contact me for some advice on how to approach a BP search.<BR/><BR/>Thanks,<BR/><BR/>BrianResearch-China.Orghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-64984977255383278612008-10-29T16:58:00.000-07:002008-10-29T16:58:00.000-07:00I have 2 adopted chinese daughters. I am intereste...I have 2 adopted chinese daughters. I am interested in searching for birthparents for the same reasons you stated. One of our girls was left outside a small farming village the other at the orphanage. Likely the parents live nearby from what you said. Yet, by the time we would actually be able to go and do a search in China, too much time may have passed and that information could be gone forever. Are there people to contact, who may be able to do some of things you suggested,(ask around, put out fliers, etc) to check things out now? I was even looking for an agency that might be hired to do such searches but have been unable to locate anything yet. Any advice on how to do a "long distance" search?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-30199972364625984862008-09-25T15:46:00.000-07:002008-09-25T15:46:00.000-07:00As someone who has worked for the oldest and large...As someone who has worked for the oldest and largest international adoption agency in the U.S., the first to pioneer the concept of heritage tours for adoptees, and the agency with the longest history assisting international (adult) adoptees with their search requests, I'd like to just add a simple observation: You make many good points, Brian, and it's of course understandable why an adoptive family would feel driven to find this information while it might be possible to do so. However, comments like, "The bottom line is every family must act in the best interests of their child. No great harm will come of a family searching," ought to also be tempered with a sincere expression of the importance of also acting in the best interests of the birth family. Well-intentioned but inappropriate personal missions by adoptive families to uncover birth family information in other parts of the world with a longer history of adoption than China, have sometimes given birth to tragic results, even a birth mother's suicide. I would strongly suggest that an adoptive family first seek wisdom from an agency with long experience supporting adoptees who have found their birth families, and sincerely consider the potential long term emotional impact on birth families, as well as the adoptee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-60646406670559674692008-02-18T12:52:00.000-08:002008-02-18T12:52:00.000-08:00We don't do dedicated BP searches, but do look for...We don't do dedicated BP searches, but do look for BPs when we visit an orphanage city. If you have purchased the finding ad from us, we will notify you when we research in your child's city.<BR/><BR/>Thanks!<BR/><BR/>BrianResearch-China.Orghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-21058130846826388352008-02-18T12:30:00.000-08:002008-02-18T12:30:00.000-08:00Brian,I'd like to get more information about searc...Brian,<BR/>I'd like to get more information about searching for my daughter's birthparents. It looks like you provide some search services. Can you give me an idea of how much it would cost, and what would be involved?<BR/> ArtAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com