tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post113488832114051324..comments2024-03-10T15:13:47.148-07:00Comments on Research-China.Org: An Open Letter to the CCAAResearch-China.Orghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09137919637778021754noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-79381805618704908842007-03-21T07:28:00.000-07:002007-03-21T07:28:00.000-07:00I thank you for the letter that you wrote. Like Fr...I thank you for the letter that you wrote. Like Frank I notice that all comments that were against your letter went unsigned. If these people want to critize you that they should at least not hide. It says for him that your comments are being posted.<BR/>I feel that the Chineses people and the world has a right to know what is going on with these adoptions. Would the American people like for our goverment to be able to tell the press what they can and cannot print??? Why should China not have freedom of the press like we enjoy. We know that a vast number of Chinese care about these babies. The stories that we hear and read about women and families and what they do for these babies. Do you not think that they would not like to know what is happening with the babies?<BR/>As the one post said that with an adoption from Chinese we as a family are now part of their world and my children need to know what their other world is like.<BR/>My daughter talks about wanting to meet her Chinese Mom. I told her someday may she might be able to if things change in China and she can and will come forward.<BR/>My S/N son who is turning 10 and we adopted at 4 1/2 yrs still feels the hurt that his "Mother" did not want him and did not love him. I have to explain she did but could not afford the medical care that he would need. Lately he has been saying that he wished he had not been born this way and was born nomarl. But no matter what I say I can still see the hurt in his heart and eyes that will not go away. I hope someday he will be able to meet her so she can tell why??.<BR/>So for making money off of Adoptive Parents - it is their choice how to spend their money. No one is being forced to give you money.<BR/>As for reading one article will cause adoptive peoples not to adopt form China. Then they should not adopt at all. All countries have their "horror" stories inclueding the US. As I told people who asked "How you adopted a child without knowing of it's background?". I reply it is a leap of faith.<BR/>As for S/N children being passed off as "heathly" I can understand. They know what happens to an "unadopted" child and they want to save them from that life. I would do the some if it were me. I would do what was needed to give them a better life.<BR/>My son has small scares on him. I would have liked to have known but they would not tell. I am sure that they were afraid I would not want him if I found out. I only wanted to able to tell him the story behind them. Now I just have to guess.<BR/><BR/>Thank you again for your wonderful articles which I have just found.<BR/><BR/>Jeannie Braden<BR/>Lancaster, OhioAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1142053201171363432006-03-10T21:00:00.000-08:002006-03-10T21:00:00.000-08:00I am about to adopt from China and am dismayed by ...I am about to adopt from China and am dismayed by the parents here who write on behalf of *future* adoptive parents to try to guilt-trip you into silence. I consider that once I adopt, China--and particularly the world of China adoption--becomes partly my world, too, and that I have an ethical obligation to speak up about concerns I have with that world as much as I do about unjust things here in the US. And I see you doing just that with great sensitivity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1138807550876786542006-02-01T07:25:00.000-08:002006-02-01T07:25:00.000-08:00Brian: Since you've complained on your blog that ...Brian: Since you've complained on your blog that most of the negative comments about this subject were anonymous, I'll gladly sign my name to this. I think you need to cease and desist, the sooner the better. The CCAA can do WHATEVER IT WANTS in regard to Americans adopting from China, and is not answerable to you or any other American. Do you think it's appropriate for you to be posting such negative matter because you are "done" adopting? I, too, am "done" (just came home with my third daughter), but I have many friends who are not. Let us hope that you do not antagonize the CCAA to the point where they tighten the rules even further. We already have the singles quota as a result of people breaking the rules. Let the CCAA do what it does, and please stop posting opinions that are NOT the general consensus of the adoption community.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1136500098067786352006-01-05T14:28:00.000-08:002006-01-05T14:28:00.000-08:00This comment speaks so well in terms of how I feel...This comment speaks so well in terms of how I feel that I am just repeating it:<BR/><BR/>Please do not speak for other adoptive parents. Your voice is yours alone. Although you may be articulate that does not mean you speak with authority. You do not have a reputation for using either ethical or professional methods in your research and I do not wish for you to speak for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1136236926614252332006-01-02T13:22:00.000-08:002006-01-02T13:22:00.000-08:00Dear Brian, I am glad you wrote this letter. It's ...Dear Brian, <BR/><BR/>I am glad you wrote this letter. It's not disrespectful. I did adopt believing that our daughters were abandoned and needed forever parents. I can't believe there are lots of parents who simply want to believe what's convenient to them. These are our children we are talking about. Why be afraid to let the CCAA know that we want to know what's going on? It's our right. Thank you Brian.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135218394879428882005-12-21T18:26:00.000-08:002005-12-21T18:26:00.000-08:00Isn't it interesting when critics prefer to be "an...Isn't it interesting when critics prefer to be "anonymous" and sink to gutter-snipe personal attacks. They could learn much from Mr.Stuy who, risking his personal interests, faces reality and addresses the problem head on, with both humility and concrete suggestions for reform. I guess there will always be those in denial and/or who prefer to stick their head in the sand because they don't have a clue how to cope with such a situation. Keep up the excellent work, Brian! Respectfully, Frank Feather.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13441809988487585009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135217685943606382005-12-21T18:14:00.000-08:002005-12-21T18:14:00.000-08:00Wow...seems like you're getting slammed here. Oka...Wow...seems like you're getting slammed here. Okay, so maybe I disagree with some of what you wrote but good grief, I'm not going to shred you to pieces over it. There's enough of that going on in the adoption community as it is. This is just my take but I am saddened that we (ie, our family) will never know the entire truth regarding the circumstances of our daughter's birth and subsequent abandonment. In some ways, I find solace in that and in others, my heart breaks for the lack of knowledge we have. <BR/><BR/>As far as the "money you've made from China adoptive families..." That's your job and your desire. Everyone makes money doing something, right? We used your services and I highly recommend you. (You even answered one of my emails while you were in China adopting your daughter! Talk about dedication to your job.) <BR/><BR/>Your hard work has provided our daughter with yet another piece of the puzzle that is her life and I personally thank you wholeheartedly for it. <BR/><BR/>And if you want to write a letter to the CCAA, go ahead. It's your opinion, your prose, your blog. <BR/><BR/>I find your posts insightful and thought-provoking. And I, for one, do not always have to agree with what you (or anyone, for that matter) writes or thinks to find merit in the content.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for listening and happy holidays to you and your family.<BR/><BR/>~KarenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13441809988487585009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135205335821874402005-12-21T14:48:00.000-08:002005-12-21T14:48:00.000-08:00why don't you come down from your self-made soapbo...why don't you come down from your self-made soapbox long enough to return all the money you have made from China adoptive families? Why didn't you "provide" all this information to your clients? <BR/><BR/>It seems as if you just have a need to feel self-important. It seemed to me that China has a very strict legal system and if there is a problem then they will handle it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135175974802239022005-12-21T06:39:00.000-08:002005-12-21T06:39:00.000-08:00Please do not speak for other adoptive parents. Y...Please do not speak for other adoptive parents. Your voice is yours alone. Although you may be articulate that does not mean you speak with authority. You do not have a reputation for using either ethical or professional methods in your research and I do not wish for you to speak for me. Signed:Indiana Mom of two wonderful Chinese children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135175485075604612005-12-21T06:31:00.000-08:002005-12-21T06:31:00.000-08:00I don't understand why it is that you insist on be...I don't understand why it is that you insist on being a self appointed diplomat for the affairs of China and adoptions. What makes us different? You've adopted one more child than I have so it makes you some kind of supreme adoption advisor? From DNA on down you have your opinions. Well, you stuck your foot in it this time. You should never have stated that Hunan was closing adoptions - even if they were! Did you think what an impact that had on waiting parents? Or worse yet, parents waiting to travel to Hunan? They were devastated and not able to contact their agencies. Nice going. Don't you think you should let news like that take the proper course to arrive to all of us? Who appointed you to disclose this rumor to everyone? I have a lot of respect for China. I am the one who is 'lucky' here! I owe China so much for the best thing that has ever happened to me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135167809540713472005-12-21T04:23:00.000-08:002005-12-21T04:23:00.000-08:00I think its high time that you get down from your ...I think its high time that you get down from your soapbox! You are not the U.S. ambassador for China Adoptions! Credibility? Really! <BR/><BR/>...And who are you?<BR/><BR/>I think your time would be better spent replying in a timely manner to people who request 'finding ads,' AND, honoring your offers to do research projects!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135133793246115052005-12-20T18:56:00.000-08:002005-12-20T18:56:00.000-08:00I appreciate the fact that you have a solid reputa...I appreciate the fact that you have a solid reputation with many parents but I think you owe many of us an apology. Your "announcement" of the closure of Hunan to all adoptions over the weekend left many of us worried sick for more than 48 hours during a weekend when none of us could receive information from our agencies or from China. <BR/>As an adoptive parent you must be aware of the impact your words would have. My husband compared it to yelling "fire" in a crowded movie theatre. <BR/>I hope that in the future, before you make such far-reaching announcements you will better consider your source and also state your source from the beginning so the rest of us can better determine whether it is fact or rumor.<BR/>I also found your open letter to be disrespectful.. everyone is entitled to their opinion but I agree with others who have said that China allows us the privilege of adopting their daughters.. they don't have to do so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135114247255701682005-12-20T13:30:00.000-08:002005-12-20T13:30:00.000-08:00This is an exceeedingly condescending and disrespe...This is an exceeedingly condescending and disrespectful letter. I just hope that it does not influence the CCAA to (quite understandably) get angry and resentful over the intrusion of 'well-intentioned' Westeners into their own internal issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135090980635567112005-12-20T07:03:00.000-08:002005-12-20T07:03:00.000-08:00Are you quite certain of all your sources (The APC...Are you quite certain of all your sources (The APC and other lists are not reliable sources)? There are a lot of rumors going around about closures and we are not yet sure if this is an isolated case or not. You mention humility in your post, but the way you choose to approach your work and the way you choose to address the CCAA shows you are far from humble. <BR/><BR/>Your blog is your forum, and I respect that. Just don't speak for all adoptive parents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135089129619145292005-12-20T06:32:00.000-08:002005-12-20T06:32:00.000-08:00Brian, as the adoptive mother of a Chinese daughte...Brian, as the adoptive mother of a Chinese daughter, I appreciate your point of view and the work you do. However, I think you should consider that China has allowed us the <I>privilege</I> of allowing their daughters to join our families. They are under no obligation to you or anyone else. While I too wish that information was more readily available and more forthcoming, we in the U.S. cannot possibly grasp the political and cultural implications of such events as what has happened at Hengyang. It is irresponsible of you to presume that you speak for anyone but yourself, and to spread information that it is impossible for those of us Stateside to verify.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135088629631606262005-12-20T06:23:00.000-08:002005-12-20T06:23:00.000-08:00Have know no brains? How dare you speak for the re...Have know no brains? How dare you speak for the rest of the parents wanting to adopt from China. You are incredibly disrespectful and are in no place to make the statements you did. I suggest you apologize to the CCAA for your disrespect and that you will no longer harrass the CCAA.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135055367687404922005-12-19T21:09:00.000-08:002005-12-19T21:09:00.000-08:00My 15 month old daughter is from Hengyang County S...My 15 month old daughter is from Hengyang County SWI and we were told that she was one of 4 babies to be the first adopted internationally from this SWI that was in July 2005, and now all this info is out about her SWI. I can not find the truth and would be very interested in any info you have or could find. The business card I was given from the director named himself as Jiang Jian Hua. <BR/><BR/>It would be so helpful to us and mean so much especially to her some day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135046498986744342005-12-19T18:41:00.000-08:002005-12-19T18:41:00.000-08:00I think you are being very disrespectful. Just be...I think you are being very disrespectful. Just because these are your feelings I don't think you have the right to represent the rest of the adoptive families. To say that people are changing their minds about adopting from China is foolish. I would like to know where you are getting your information. Maybe it's people like you that makes CCAA not want the reporters to report on the story. I feel CCAA is doing the right thing in getting the situation under control. What gives you the right to tell CCAA how to handle things. Have you ever thought comments like this could hurt other's trying to adopt from China. I have very high regards for the Chinese and their culture.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135045538850579192005-12-19T18:25:00.000-08:002005-12-19T18:25:00.000-08:00I'd apprecaite it if you could post a link to the ...I'd apprecaite it if you could post a link to the source of your information which is stating that Hunan is now closed to ALL adoptions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135044220483597472005-12-19T18:03:00.000-08:002005-12-19T18:03:00.000-08:00A reliable source on a Yahoo group posted today th...A reliable source on a Yahoo group posted today that NOT all Hunan Province is closed down to adoption. The source is a professional involved in the adoption community and living in China. They pesonnally checked with CCAA today about Hunan adoptions at the request of<BR/>someone in the group and was told that the only orphanage closed to<BR/>adoptions was the one where the Director was arrested. All others are still open to adoption and they in fact just facilitated an adoption there Friday. The closed orphanage is Hengyang County Orphanage. <BR/><BR/>Are you certain about all of Hunan being closed?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135041591755054962005-12-19T17:19:00.000-08:002005-12-19T17:19:00.000-08:00Have you considered that you are being disrespectf...Have you considered that you are being disrespectful? Rather than allowing them to handle their issues internally and save face you are requesting they provide you with an update of their current affairs. If and when they want to let us know they will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1135024546168090242005-12-19T12:35:00.000-08:002005-12-19T12:35:00.000-08:00Brian, I noticed that the CCAA had an email link o...Brian, I noticed that the CCAA had an email link on their website. Did you email this to them as well?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1134991113093537322005-12-19T03:18:00.000-08:002005-12-19T03:18:00.000-08:00Brian,This is a wonderfully written letter. I hop...Brian,<BR/><BR/>This is a wonderfully written letter. I hope that one day we have the full story of what happened in Hunan. One of my daughters is from Chenzhou, and when she's older, I want to be able to reassure her that she was not involved in this in any way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1134965821703851392005-12-18T20:17:00.000-08:002005-12-18T20:17:00.000-08:00As a journalist and mother of two beautiful girls ...As a journalist and mother of two beautiful girls from China, it saddens me to be reminded that every culture does not enjoy the freedom of information that we do as Americans. <BR/><BR/>I do believe CCAA reads many blogs, this one included. I also hope that the current slow downs which are causing so much anxiety among waiting families, are discontinued. And that the situation in Hunan is fully investigated and rectified as soon as possible.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13441809988487585009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15636692.post-1134962511566734552005-12-18T19:21:00.000-08:002005-12-18T19:21:00.000-08:00Brian, your letter was eloquent. I have to believ...Brian, your letter was eloquent. I have to believe that all humans have a soul and in this particular genre, Chinese Adoption, that the clear majority only wish goodwill and great futures for the children that are adopted and for those yet to be adopted. God bless you,<BR/>LisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com